The very first article that I posted on this blog was about a friend of mine in a bad relationship.  Sadly, I have to now post that the person that my friend was involved with died suddenly in his sleep on Friday. He was so young and it was so unexpected that it has really devastated a lot of people. Now, I had been friends with him and at one time we were best of friends. I met the “friend” I referred to in the previous article threw him. They had been together the entire time I had known them. At the time, I saw that they were having problems in their relationship but no more unusual or normal then most. I was also much closer to him at that point and really did not want to get involved. As time progressed we all started witnessing him make bad decisions regarding his health and become a much more angry, depressed and dramatic person. A lot of people started backing off because we couldn’t watch him spiral out of control and be close enough to get hit with the fallout. We watched from a close distance and I think that is what brought her and me closer together as friends. We had him in common. We could talk about how worried we were about him and the constant roller coaster of things happening to him and around him. She also knew that she could talk about how bad their problems had started getting. That is where I struggled with the question of when to get involved and if I really even should. I decided to support whatever decision she made because I do know that sometimes it just boils down to the fact that you can’t always choose who you fall in love with.

I know that there are a lot of us dealing with the guilt that maybe we could have said more, got involved a little more or we just should have looked the other way and not have separated ourselves from him. Maybe we should have had just a little more patience. Of course we can beat ourselves up over these kinds of thoughts or we can take from the experience and learn from it. Personally, this experience has changed me. I already know how short life can be and I always try and cherish every moment I have with my loved ones but now I know that even if you are mad at someone or having a bump in your friendship/relationship, always let them know that you still love them and care about them despite what is going on between you. You never want that feeling of regret or wishing you just had one last time to let them know.

For my friend who lost the love of her life but also the person that drove her crazy most of the time, I am just so heartbroken for you. I know that there is a sense of loss that you feel right now that will never really feel filled. I hope that you can just focus on the good times and start to heal from all the bad times. It is so sad to see the heartbreak in your eyes but also refreshing to see peacefulness and freedom in your eyes that I have never had the opportunity to see before. You deserve to feel that way. He has found the peace that he has searched and searched for and so very much deserved and I believe he is sharing that with you now. I know he is sorry for not being able to show you in person how much he really loved you deep in his heart. I am truly sorry that this has happened.

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